Positive pregnancy test? Check. Shocking news? Not really. Even before my husband and I got our positive pregnancy test I declared I was pregnant. That was just a few days before Thanksgiving. While we had promised each other that we would wait until after Thanksgiving to tell our families, but as soon as the second line appeared I knew that I was going to tell. And I did...and then came the rash of questions. "Where are you going to have your baby?" "Was the pregnancy planned?" (I'm in my early twenties and this is our first baby.) Then came the advice. "Don't be a hero, take the epidural" "Have the doctor do as many tests as possible, early on." While I realize all of these comments were well meaning, I began to get really irked. Wrongly, I had supposed that we wouldn't have to start defending our decisions before we had celebrated the news. My route was to simply smile and nod while ignoring their comments. Was it chicken of me? Maybe. But all the while I knew that only my husband and I know what is right for us and our baby.
